Monday, 15 September 2014

The Start of this Mess

EX Online date who won't let me go!

It's been around 7 years since Gary came into my life. I never thought 7 years ago I would regret ever setting eyes on him. But today I can truly, wholeheartedly say he was the worst man to ever enter my life. For 6 years he has tormented me mentally. In the beginning he was all smiles and said all the right things. Lied about having physical illnesses that would render him physically disabled when he was older. I believed him like a fool. His sob story about losing a partner 10 years previously to HIV. He spun me a sob story and I lapped it up!

At first it was nice to feel like I was helping someone who had problems. We shared our woes and hurts. I thought he was a nice man, not the predator he turned out to be in the end. I was having some housing problems and he said I could stay with him some nights until my problem was resolved. I felt safe with him. I introduced him to a friend. She had her reservations and felt he was rude and wanted to come between her and me. He unbeknown to me he was/is afraid of women (I will come to this later on)...He had a friend who was coming over from New York to stay for 2 weeks. He asked me to meet him - which I did. He was charming and sweet. A black gentleman who happened to be HIV +. It was a pleasure to help show him around London. I was convinced at this stage that Gary was sincere in his positive outlook towards others. We went to Brighton for the day and at first we seemed to be having a great time - shopping - eating etc. Then in the late afternoon by the beach K (New York friend) lost his footing at the top of the steps leading to the promenade. Instead of reaching out to stop K falling backwards, Gary did nothing! I immediately felt numbed/shocked. I reached out to catch him as I was behind K. That was my first warning as to who Gary really was/is....